From: Wedding Palace Visitor
Posted: 1/1/2010 10:43:05 PM
Subject: I'm getting married in May, an
Question: I'm getting married in May, and planning has been quite stressful (as I'm sure it is for everyone). My mom passed away a few years ago. I have never gotten along with my oldest sister, but I felt it was the right thing to do to ask her to take on the "mother of the bride" role during the ceremony since she is the oldest. I also asked all four of her children to be in the wedding (two young bridesmaids, a flower girl and a ring bearer). Before I ever asked her children to be in the wedding, I asked my sister if she was OK with the expense that would be involved...she said she was fine with it. Since then she has complained about every expense that has come up. She lied and told me she had ordered the two bridesmaids dresses when, in fact, she hadn't. She then arranged to get used dresses without asking me. I asked her when the dresses are coming in so that we can look at them, and she refuses to give me any information about them. I'm wondering if she lied about that as well. Now, she won't return any of my phone calls or emails. I'm at a loss. I don't want to her hurt children, but their mother is not purchasing what they need to participate in the wedding, and I cannot afford to do it myself. When I suggested that she might consider stepping aside if the expense is too great, she said, "It never occurred to me that you'd kick your nieces and nephews out of your wedding over money." I think she said this in front of the children. It was quite a low blow. She's not holding up her end of the bargain and I can't even get her to speak to me to figure this out. We're at a point where I really need to know if they're going to participate or not. Pretty soon it will be too late to find other people to be in the wedding and to order their dresses. I cry almost every day about the way she has talked to me and the position she is putting me in. This is supposed to be a happy time, and if it weren't for her antics, it would be. What should I do?
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