From: Wedding Palace Visitor
Posted: 2/2/2010 11:59:22 AM
Subject: My fiance and I met in college
Question: My fiance and I met in college and have been dating for 4 years, we are getting married in March. We have had the time to brace ourselves for the differences in our famlies. My mom and future mother-in-law are very different. My future mother-in-law is old fashioned and slightly anti-social (perhaps her Southern Baptist upbringing in a small town of 300 people) and my mom is a total 180, being from Chicago with immigrant parents and Catholic, she is very social. My mom is also a widow, my father died when I was younger and I am now seeing how unhappy she is. The mother-in-law is a divorcee and a cancer survivor. My mom has wanted to be included with the wedding from Day 1 which we have tried very hard to do since the wedding is 3 hours away from her as well as myself and my fiance, but is in my future mother-in-law's hometown. My mom sent an email several months ago to get a feel for what rehearsal dinner sites are around and my fiance's mother pretty much ignored her. Also, the wedding shower was not planned until only a week ago (the shower is in 2 weeks). Everyone is traveling and needs a place a stay and I admit, it was a little rude since everyone now needs to find a hotel and request for a day off of work if they can even manage to get there. My mom has grown frustrated since she hasn't met my fiance's mother (plus the 2 emails and lack of shower planning and no help in an unfamiliar town), which I can understand. It has gotten to a point where my mother and I have been arguing and I am getting a little depressed about the wedding. I thought this was supposed to be a happy time, but I feel as if the wedding is going to be a disaster, since my mom is confrontational and my fiance's mom is not. I am afraid that our wedding day will be the worst day of the rest of our life. Is there any way to make this better? Or am I doomed to deal with family issues for the rest of my life?
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