From: Wedding Palace Visitor
Question: My fiance and I have gone thru many obstacles to get to the point that we are at. We love each other more than words can say alone and are fully committed to our future together. The problem: We had split about two years ago for a period of time because of his mother's need to control our lives and him letting it happen. It was devastating to me to lose him and to him as well. With time and counseling we have been able to come together where he will defend me against her and we can make our lives, our own. There is much more detail as far as his mom buying his ex-wife a home within three miles of ours, asking us to take care of his ex wife's child every other week, telling us she does not want us to have children and constantly berating us in front of his own child. This is not something my family does. We care about each other and do the best we can not to hurt each other. I understand that words slip here and there unintentionally, but it is always followed with apologies. His family never apologies. I have yet to have a time at his families that his mother has not said something rude. My fiance has come to terms with his mother. He accepts that she has obsessive compulsive disorder. He has learned to ignore the negative words that come from her. I am still working on this. Now that I have made this a long story. The problem I am facing is our wedding. My family does not get along with his family. My family sees the devastation that his mother brought to us and continues to bring to us. How do I have a small wedding of our imidiate families and not have it be the most tense night of our lives. I love my family very much and it makes me sad that I even have to ask them to deal with this. And I know that they will do it for me and not say a word, but I really want everyone to be enjoying themselves. The only thing I can think of is to have a big wedding with lots of friends and family where everyone can kind of blend together, but funds are too low for that and neither of us cares if we have a big wedding.
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Hello Sarah, Your situation is a tough one. I...
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