From: Wedding Palace Visitor
Question: I am on the verge of cancelling my wedding next year because of my mother interfering with the wedding plans. The latest thing came up at the weekend when I asked her to go pick up my wedding shoes from a shop I had ordered them through. She called me when she got them to tell me she has found a lovely bridesmaids dress for my step niece (who I wasnt intending to invite let alone be a bridesmaid) because the bridesmaids dress I have for my *only* bridesmaid is strapless and she cant possibly have a strapless dress. She has tried to change my colour scheme 4 times, saying that ivory and gold is "bland" and she needs to go through *our* guest list with a fine tooth comb so that she can invite her friends (who we have never met!)
She kind of has us over a barrel because she has offered to pay for the main meal, although I am yet to accept the offer as we can finance the wedding ourselves. Part of me wants to give in for a quiet life, another part of me wants to cancel the lot and go down the local registry office and the other part of me wants to have it out with her because otherwise how will she know she has upset me?
Its stressing me out so much that Im arguing with my fiancé over it and its putting a strain on us that we don’t need. His family are lovely and supportive and are just happy for us both, I wish my family could be the same, but theyre just not. My mum has been having conversations with a variety of family members over wedding plans, guest lists, bridesmaids, colour schemes and a load of other things, none of which are any of their business. She apologised to me (and patronised me a little if Im honest) saying “yes I know all these conversations have been going on and Im sorry” but its like she doesn’t understand this is our day, not hers, she has been married twice, why cant she let me have my wedding how I want it?
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