From: Wedding Palace Visitor
Question: My husband and I raised his 2 boys. He was a single father for 6 years after the boys mom walked out without so much as kissing these babies good-bye. She has been marginally involved in their lives, but never put their needs above hers as did their father & I. The oldest is getting married and there is a lot of stress about the lighting of the tapers with which the bride & groom will light the unity candle. I think the groom's father should have the honor as he is the parent who has provided for the child since day one - and never faltered. The biological mother believes that she should have the honor. My husband thinks that perhaps the mother and I - the stepmother should both lite it. I find this distateful because she only shows up for the kids when it is to her benefit. However, my husband has made many sacrifices to raise his children. He has paid for everything - she never paid one penny of support, never took care of the kids when they were sick. I am so frustrated I could scream. To me it is so blatently clear that he should be the one and only groom's parent honored in this way. Is there any better way to resolve this - other than omit this part of the ceremony - which the bride's mother would probably not even consider?
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