Response: Hello Gale, It is becoming increasingly common to have two maids of honor or a maid of honor and a matron of honor. It is up to you to decide which one will walk in last, just before you, the bride, and who will perform other duties. I would suggest that you might have your sister walk in last simply because she is a family member. However, if you are closer to your friend, you might decide otherwise.
Some brides choose to have one of the ladies sign the marriage license as the witness and the other one give a toast at the reception, but you should decide this based on their personalities.
Your guests will assume that only one is the maid of honor unless you use a wedding program and list them both as maids of honor so that the guests know the difference.
Your groom will want to decide if he wants to have two best men or only one. My daughter-in-law had two maids of honor, her sister and her best friend. My son handled the situation by having his father as one of the best men and a close friend as the other one. My husband walked with the sister and the two best friends walked together.
Whatever you decide to do, be sure to talk it over with your fiance and with both ladies so that they both understand that they are sharing the job and no jealousy results. Good luck on your planning.
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