Response: Hello Caren, In past generations both the parents of the bride and the parents of the groom were expected to pay for certain things. Today, that is no longer true. Rather, you pay for what you volunteer to pay for. If you would like to help the couple, then you might either give them a sum of money to be spent as needed or you might offer to pay for certain things, such as the photography or the music. Do let them know what you plan to do as early as possible in the planning so that they know how much money they have to spend. If you are financially unable to help them, let them know that as well.
The only thing the grooms parents still traditionally pay for is the rehearsal dinner, and again only if you are financially able to do so. As the hosts, you get to decide what kind of dinner it will be and who will be invited. The bride and groom are the guests of honor and this is a time for them to relax and enjoy the evening.
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