Response: Hello, As you are discovering, it is often harder to find clothing for the moms than to choose a wedding gown. Perhaps an explanation behind some of the 'restricted' colors will be helpful. Traditionally, wearing black when you are part of the family and the bridesmaids dont wear black was a symbol of disapproval of the marriage, sort of like wearing mourning to a wedding. Today, many wedding guests wear black but in some parts of the country, particularly more conservative areas like the south and east coast, it is still taboo for even a guest to wear black, and never a family member.
White and any shade of off-white, including ivory, are reserved for the bride and should not be worn by guests or family.
It appears that the bride has asked that red not be worn since it is close to the color being worn by the brides mother. Again, traditionally, a very bright color like red isnt worn because it draws attention to the wearer and away from the bride and groom.
I would suggest that you look for a tea-length cocktail dress that is conservatively cut, perhaps in dark green, light gray, or purple. Most people who can wear burgundy look good in dark green and in purple. A shade of gray that is not silvery can usually be worn by those on whome black looks good. Blue would also be an option except for the brides restriction. Therefore, it is possible that the bridesmaids will be wearing blue and the bride doesnt want anyone to look like them. This is a good time to look for holiday dresses in the larger department stores.
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