Response: Hello Katherine, I am sorry to hear about your situation. Unfortunately, some people think of no one but themselves. It is definitely okay to limit the step-mothers involvement. Your daughter may want to talk to her, or, if she thinks it wouldnt go well, talk to her father and ask him to talk to his wife before the wedding.
If the woman is very head strong, it may be necessary to set limits, such as telling the father that if his wife creates a scene, he will be expected to take her home. It would go over better if your daughter talks to her father and step-mother rather than you.
You might also ask a man, perhaps an uncle, to be available to intervene if necessary. You shouldnt have to be embarrassed by this woman and her actions if it can be handled discreetly. If she knows her behavior wont be tolerated, she may behave.
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