Response: Hello Bill, I am sorry to hear about your situation. Have you and your wife explained the situation to your son and his fiancee as you explained it here? I do understand not wanting young children at a wedding, but a 14 year old is not a child, and there are only 2 of them. You dont mention when the wedding will be held. If you have some time, you might ask the couple to lower the age limit to 14, then allow them some time to think about it.
When relatives travel to a wedding, their children are usually included, no matter what their ages, but the bride and groom get to make the final decision. Perhaps if your brother-in-law and sister-in-law contact the bride and groom and let them know that they will be unable to attend because their children are not invited, they may reconsider. If they are adamant that the children should not attend, then you and your family will have to accept that and the bride and groom will have to accept the consequences of their decision.
It is thoughtful of you to offer to pay for the two meals if that is being given as a reason to exclude the teens.
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