Response: Hello George, Years ago, when the groom went from his parents home to his home with the bride, the grooms parents typically paid for the mens clothing for the wedding and helped their son with the costs of the rings and the honeymoon. They also hosted the rehearsal dinner.
Today, with couples marrying older and often financially sound, those traditions no longer are true, except for hosting the rehearsal dinner. Today, neither set of parents is obligated to finance the wedding. If you want to help, you should volunteer to do so. You might offer to pay for certain items, such as the tuxedo rentals or the photography. Or, you might give the couple a sum of money to be spent on wedding expenses as they need.
As host of the rehearsal dinner, you should choose the location and menu and decide how many people you want to invite. Some people invite only the wedding party; others invite out of town guests who have arrived early. You can ask the bride and grooms opinion if you want, but they are the guests of honor, so you get to make the final decisions.
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