Response: Hello Mark, Mentioning a money tree or gifts of any kind in your invitations is a major breach of etiquette. Money trees are controversial and couples often find that they got less money by having one than they would have without one. The way to make your wishes known is to do so verbally and only when asked. You would not register for gifts, so when people ask you, your parents or members of the wedding party what you need, you can say you would prefer money. That way, guests can put money or a gift card inside a card for you.
Be sure you provide a secure container for the cards so they cant be stolen. You will find that allowing guests to put money in a card usually results in checks and multiple bills where a money tree tends to result in few bills larger than twenties.
Even if you say you prefer money, you will get some gifts, so be prepared. Older guests tend to give gifts and some people just dont like giving money.
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