Response: It sounds as if your husband is placing you in a difficult situation and may possibly alienate his daughter as well if he isnt careful. Perhaps he needs to be enlightened about how weddings are financed today. No longer are the brides parents, which includes him, responsible for all the costs of the wedding. Today, in most cases the bride, groom, and all parents contribute to the wedding costs, though not necessarily equally. Parents may give the couple money to be spent as needed or they may volunteer to pay for certain items, as you suggest. His daughter probably expects his help in some way. To fail to be supportive of her could send a message he doesnt intend to send. Perhaps you can reason with him and get him to see that the two of you should be involved in some way. You know his personality and how he might react if he finds out you offered to pay for something. If you think he wouldnt become unreasonably angry, it would be a nice gesture to offer to pay for the cake, flowers, or another item.
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