Response: In generations past when a bride and groom lived with their parents until they married then moved to their own home, the parents usually covered the costs of the wedding. The grooms parents paid for the wedding rings, ministers fee, marriage license, clothing for the groom, the brides bouquet, the corsages and boutonierres not bridesmaids bouquets, and the honeymoon.
Today, however, things have changed. Most couples are somewhat financially secure, so the costs of the wedding are generally paid for by the bride and groom and both sets of parents, but not necessarily equally. If you want to help and you dont have to, you can give the couple a sum of money to be spent as they choose or you can offer to pay for certain items, such as all of the flowers or the photography, etc. No parent is responsible for any wedding costs if they are unable or unwilling to help. The costs of a wedding are ultimately the responsibility of the bride and groom. If you want to help, you should volunteer as soon as possible and tell the couple what you plan to do.
The one thing that the grooms parents still traditionally pay for is the rehearsal dinner. As the hosts, you get to choose the location and the number of guests that you feel you can accommodate.
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