Response: This is an issue that only you can determine. You know the reasons why you and your mother are estranged. Do you have hope of reconciliation at some time in the future? If so, then inviting her might be a first step an not inviting her could cause a further rift. However, if the estrangement is because of a serious issue, such as mental issues, drug or alcohol use, then you will have to decide what is best for everyone in the long run.
Since you are just beginning your planning, you have some time to think about the issue and decide what will be best for everyone.
If people ask where she is, which would be rude on their part, you can simply say 'she was unable to make it.' If you say that enough, people will stop asking.
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