Response: Though you may not agree with what the couple have chosen to do, it is their wedding. They may have decided to go to Las Vegas for any number of reasons. They may feel that it isnt right to take your money for their wedding when her family has chosen not to be involved, which is the parents right to make that decision. They may not want to deal with all of the issues of planning a wedding; they may want a small, intimate ceremony. The list could go on and on.
The fact that the reception is planned for the brides birthday shouldnt be a problem. If she is willing to have it that day, that is great and it can add extra memories.
When guests are invited to a wedding they have the choice to attend or not. If they attend, they pay for their own expenses; you dont need to pay. If you look at the big picture, even if you pay for yourself, your husband, and your sons, you will probably spend less than you would if you paid for an entire wedding. If you check with travel agents you may find that you can get some great deals for trips to Las Vegas that will include airfare, hotel rooms, rental car and other perks.
If it were me, I would be supportive of the couple rather than run the risk of creating a rift that could take years to heal. They may need your gentle guidance in helping them bring everything together successfully. You certainly dont have to pay for the Las Vegas wedding unless you want to do so. Dont damage your relationship with your son by being angry that he and his fiancee are not meeting your expectations. You have the opportunity to be gracious about their plans or to make them feel that they dont measure up. The decision will affect your relationship with them for years to come.
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