Response: Hello Kim, I am not sure that I totally understand your question. If you are going to a courthouse in the same state in which you live, you can call your local courthouse and find out what the requirements are in your state. For instance, in my state, a marriage license can be used anywhere in the state, not just in the county where it was obtained. Therefore, I could purchase a marriage license at my local courthouse and then travel to the opposite side of the state to be married and the license would still be valid. That is not true in all states, however.
If you are planning to be married in another state, then you will need to find out the requirements in that state. Some states have waiting periods before a license can be used. Others require that you have a blood test or do something else. You will want to be sure that you can comply with the requirements before seeking a marriage license.
As for the etiquette involved, you will be married by a judge. Therefore, you need to make an appointment with a particular judge or with any judge who is free when you arrive. Most judges spend part of their day in court, so they are able to perform ceremonies only between sessions or at the end of the day. In my county, a person can go into the office that issues marriage licenses and a clerk will call several judges offices to see who might be available and at what time.
You can usually bring a couple of people with you as witnesses, but you cant invite a group of people. The ceremony will be performed in the judges chambers and many of them are very small. Most judges will spend a few minutes taking pictures with you after the ceremony if you would like to do so.
Then, the judge will usually want to spend a short period of time talking with you to assertain that you know what you are doing and you are not marrying in haste or marrying someone you barely know, etc.
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